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Consider this...

If you were delivering life-saving mouth-to-mouth on someone in public, you'd be totally focussed.

You wouldn't be thinking about what onlookers thought of your clothes or your body shape or the colour of your eyes. All that fluff would disappear from your consciousness.

When you are impassioned and fascinated, say by a conversation you're having, then you tend to forget to bother to imagine what others may be thinking of you.

To feel what I mean, try this self-hypnotic exercise:

  1. Think about times when you are tempted to worry what others think about you.
  2. Now think of times when you are totally focussed - maybe on a sports game or piece of music or reading a book, or talking with a friend when they're telling you something amazing. Now notice that feeling of being totally focussed outside of yourself.
  3. Amplify that feeling.
  4. Take that feeling of outer focus into the imagined situation from Step 1 (where before you'd have been worrying about what others might be thinking).
  5. Experience being in the formally self-conscious situation and feeling relaxed and unconcerned about what others may or may not be thinking.
  6. Notice what it's like to reach the point where you no longer even think about what others might be thinking.

This is the sort of exercise we use in 10 Steps to Solid Self Esteem.

Sometimes, ignoring the bigger picture is a good thing.

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To your helpful focus,

Mark

Published by mark.tyrrell December 22nd, 2015 in