How to say sorry and feel really good about it

Is apologizing something that doesn't come easily to you?

Do you sometimes regret not having said sorry for something you feel bad about?

'Sorry' is the hardest word, according to the song, and most of us would agree! There's something about acknowledging being in the wrong, or admitting that we've played a part (intentional or not) in someone else's distress, that can really stick in the throat. This is a very human response. We all have a strong sense of 'who I am', and offering an apology can feel like saying there is something wrong with 'who I am'.

Nobody wants to do that.

"But I'm right!"

We also quite naturally live our lives with a presupposition that what we do and think is 'right'. This is not necessarily egotism or arrogance. It's a natural corollary of how we construct the 'map of the world' which we live by - how we explain things to ourselves. And how the rest of the world explains things too: think how much emphasis is overtly put on the importance of 'being right'.

So if you have an inner assumption of being 'right' and outward social pressure (real or imagined) to be seen to be 'right', you can run into a real problem if some deed or word of yours contravenes this 'rightness'. "I can't be wrong!" is the feeling we have inside, and we can go to quite amazing lengths to justify what we did or said, in the teeth of evidence, so that we don't have to say sorry.

Is apologizing a sign of weakness?

Sometimes the difficulty with apologizing is not about sense of self or about being 'right' but more to do with competition. That may sound a strange thing to say, but once again it's about natural human response. We are a competitive and status conscious species. Saying sorry can make us feel that we are putting ourselves in a position of weakness relative to others.

So, all in all, there's quite a few barriers to owning up, taking responsibility, and offering an appropriate apology to those we have wronged or distressed!

But it's really worth learning how to say sorry.

Why being able to say sorry is good for you

People who can apologize appropriately (without becoming a push over) when they have accidentally put a foot wrong or have intentionally set out to cause hurt or distress experience an enhanced sense of personal integrity and enjoy better and longer lasting relationships with others. The quality of their relationships is more important to them than point scoring.

So where do you start?

Hypnosis can help you make the transition to saying sorry

How to say sorry is an audio hypnosis session created by professional psychologists which will help you cross over from being a 'never explain, never apologize' sort of person to being someone who takes full and open responsibility for both their right and their wrong decisions.

As you relax into a profound and transformative trance state in response to powerful hypnotic suggestions, you will find yourself almost effortlessly conducting an amazing inner 'spring clean' of long held attitudes, tendencies, beliefs, and patterns of behavior. This will enable you to re-assess your values and re-prioritize your life from a new 'ground of being' and discover what really matters to you.

Download How to say sorry and give yourself the honor of true integrity.