How to Stop Coming on Too Strong

Have you been told you come on too strong sometimes?

Do you struggle to judge how to pace things when you are building a relationship with someone?

No matter what kind of relationship you engage in with someone, whether it's as a workmate, a boss, a subordinate, a friend, or even a potential lover, the process of establishing the relationship is like a complicated sort of dance.

It can sometimes seem that other people know all the steps of this dance, while you keep tripping yourself up, or stepping on your partner's toes.

How anxiety or excitement can get you coming on too strong

When you feel really strongly attracted to someone, it can get particularly complicated, because the other person can come to seem especially important to you.

And when that happens, it feels especially important to make that connection, quickly, in case you miss the opportunity. Anxiety or excitement is making you 'try too hard' which unfortunately makes it not work out.

But just how do you judge how often to call, text, or email? Whether it's okay to touch, or to hug or kiss? How many meetings or dates to try to set up, and how frequently?

There is no 'rule book' for building relationships

Well, there is no cut and dried, totally reliable set of rules you can follow on how to form relationships. That might sound like bad news in some ways, but actually, it's liberating.

Every single relationship is unique, you are unique, the other person is unique. So whenever you want to build a connection with someone, you don't look at a 'relationship rule book', you look at them.

This means you pay attention to them as an individual. It's not just about what you want. It's about what they might want. You need to be able to put yourself in their shoes, and see what's happening from their point of view. You need to be able to respond to the feedback you get from them.

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How hypnosis can help you avoid coming on too strong

Stop Coming On Too Strong is an audio hypnosis session developed by psychologists that's designed to help you develop a more intuitive, responsive sense of how to negotiate the relationship 'dance'.

As you relax and listen repeatedly to your session, you'll find that you are increasingly able to

• relax with having strong feelings about someone without having to rush into 'action'
• appreciate the other person as an individual, with unique wants and needs
• take account of the other person's likely response before you make any specific approach
• notice and respond sensitively to how the other person does react to what you do or say
• accept that even if things don't 'work out', you can live with that

Download Stop Coming On Too Strong and start to relax with relationship building. You can listen on your computer or device or via our free app which you can access when you have completed your purchase.