Should I remarry my ex?

Hey Mark,

I am divorced since last December. The reason was untraceable to me until today; the situations from my ex-in-laws during the divorce process were bitter - I couldn't digest those. So, eventually I divorced my spouse because she wanted it; I left for her happiness, paid alimony, and settled everything.

One month later, my spouse called me and asked, "How are you feeling?" "Let's get remarried and live happily." She agreed and we had a good relationship for two months.

Now she says, "If you want to marry me, come to my home and ask my parents." So I also said, "Okay, I will come and you also must come and ask my parents." She wouldn't agree to come to my home. Personally, I feel I can't face a few people because of what they had done to me during the divorce process, which I explained to her, but she doesn't believe or recognize it and says our relationship is over. I am down in pain again.

This question was submitted by 'Navin'

Mark says...

Okay, this is a quick one. My advice? Run.

Don't push to remarry her now. She doesn't recognize your needs, doesn't believe what you say, and she was the one who wanted to get divorced in the first place. So who's to say it won't happen again? It seems that she is playing the worst kind of games.

I might be wrong, as I only have a limited view on this, of course. But from the few words you've written, it seems like, whatever you feel right at this moment, you will be much better off without her.

I wish you all the best for a less complicated and happier future.