I have learned from my suffering

Dear Mark,

I much appreciated your introductory article, but at age 68, more for the good of posterity then myself. In my years, I have known many and diverse 'life sufferers' in addition to myself. The live description is far too long to give here.

At the age of 16, amidst serious peer violence, at times with weapons, a special teacher called a moratorium about six weeks before final exams: "Bruce, stop dissertating everyone with electronics and the rest, stop the violence so we can study for final exams!"

Little did anyone know the hidden benefits of that, far beyond teacher's expectations. For the first time in my life, I saw peers treating each other and myself with some respect. About two weeks later, in a memorable moment, I realized that I must have 'some serious personality problem'; I didn't know what it was, but I knew what I didn't know and estimated I would be fighting it for life or close to. In retrospect, I was remarkably accurate for the precious little I knew.

For all those sufferers, nobody, including multiple mental health professionals, has ever known what to do with that, I have done, but not for money. I have had a career, still have a wife of 30 years standing (but no children for medical reasons) and now focus on finding 'horses that will drink' in the younger generations in English, French, and Spanish in a city where there are some 780 languages in a day. Favourite remark: °Haber compasi√≥n es la hija de han sida sofr√≠e! (To have compassion is the daughter of having suffered!)

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Mark says...

Hi Bruce,

Thank you for writing in. I'm not exactly sure which article you refer to, but I'm glad it resonated with you.

I love the way you describe how suffering and getting through it can be one of the greatest teachers in life and also help us build understanding of others.

I wrote this short piece on 'posttraumatic growth', which you may find interesting. I also read a quote yesterday by the French writer Romain Gary that I'd like to share with you that describes, I think, how humour can be protective and aid resilience in life:

"Humour is an affirmation of dignity, a declaration of man's superiority to all that befalls him."

It goes without saying, I hope, that 'man' here also means 'woman'. Anyway, thanks for your input and words of wisdom.

All my best,


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