Escape the swamp of self pity and make the most of life

Hypnosis is an ideal way to stop self pity from holding you back

Do you often feel that you've been unfairly given a really hard row to hoe in life, and that you've a lot to be aggrieved about?

Do you sometimes feel that, justified though your resentments or regrets may be, they're somehow holding you back?

When bad things happen to you, or you realize that your circumstances mean that you can't realize some of your natural hopes and dreams, it's only natural to feel pretty down about it. Life can be very hard, and the toughest of us are still vulnerable to knocks. We may suffer physically, emotionally and mentally. And sometimes there really isn't anything you can do about it.

What happens to you when bad things happen to you

Psychologists recognize that when you get a knockback, of whatever kind, there is always a process of grieving to go through. Whatever would have happened if that knockback had not been there now won't happen. You've lost that potential future that maybe you were counting on. Sometimes this might be a small matter that you quickly recover from. But it could also be something major, calling for a lot of grieving.

People don't always recognize that the feelings of self pity they experience in such situations are grief, because most people think of grief as what you feel when someone dies. If nobody died, how can these feelings of resentment, anger, bitterness and regret over bad things that have happened to you be grief? But this is just what they are. The future you would have lived (if not for those bad things) has died.

Grieving and self pity

So when you feel sorry for yourself, and acknowledge that you've lost out on things that you feel you should have been able to do or to have, possibly through no fault of your own, you are grieving. And grieving is an appropriate response to loss. At the same time, it is important to understand that grieving is a healing process with a purpose. It is not a permanent state of being.

What is the purpose of grieving? It helps us acknowledge the loss we have suffered, separate ourselves from the future that is not to be, and prepare for a different future that will have its own positive aspects. When we make it through the first two stages, but don't embark on the third, we get swamped in self pity, forever dwelling on what was lost and turning our back on the possibility that life could still be good.

How self pity can become a limiting habit

In time, feeling sorry for yourself can become a fixed habit, and one that locks you in to a backward looking perspective that prevents you from making the most of life. If you've been stuck in it for a long time, you may wonder if you can ever break free. Fortunately, you can.

Hypnosis can help you stop self pity and look forward to the future

Stop self pity is an audio hypnosis session devised by psychologists that uses powerful hypnotic techniques to help you make that move into the final stage of letting go of what happened and preparing to take your life in a new, positive direction.

As you listen to this session repeatedly, the effects of regularly allowing yourself to enjoy the benefits of deep relaxing trance will begin to permeate your life. You'll find yourself easily and effortlessly developing a new, wider perspective on your personal history. After a short while, you'll begin to notice that you

• feel a deep sympathy for your own and others' troubles
• see the troubles that have befallen you in a wider human context
• understand the positive aspects of your own misfortunes
• no longer feel tempted to wallow in feeling sorry for yourself
• sense a growing joyous resolve to make the best of things

Download Stop self pity and set out with renewed hope into your future.