Self Esteem in Relationships

A healthy and happy relationship should be good for your self-esteem.

But it may be that your self-esteem wasn't great to begin with and although your partner makes efforts to compliment you and build you up somehow you just don't believe them!

Maybe you really love your partner but feel they are just too good for you and that you are 'lucky to have them'

Perhaps you feel it's just a matter of time before they reject you in favour of some one 'better!'

Perhaps your low self esteem in your relationship is even spoiling the relationship itself . Low self-esteem can manifest as you looking for signs that your partner has lost interest in you or prefers someone else or is only seeing you because they pity you.

Low self esteem and defensiveness

Sometimes low self esteem in relationships makes you defensive and feeling like you are being criticised when you are not! Low self-esteem can present as over-sensitivity.

Some people with very low self-esteem describe themselves as 'unlovable' and even say things like: 'He/She is only with me for sex/money/out of pity/duty/until they meet someone better!'

It could be the case that you were badly treated and psychologically abused by a previous partner who put you down, never said anything nice about you and made you feel worthless.

It's easy to suffer lowered self-esteem when we've been in a relationship like this.

But if we take these 'old feelings' into a new relationship then they can really get in the way of a satisfying relationship.

This is like a bird that has been caged for many years finally having the cage door released but, out of habit, not yet realising that it can now actually fly free!

Maybe a part of you kind of envies your partner's confidence or ease with themselves.

Imagine what it will be like to truly value yourself and be able to feel the reality of your partners love and respect for you because you feel that it is right and reasonable for them to feel positively towards you.

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