Coming through the death of a parent

The death of a parent is one of the key milestones of life, one of those points of no return after which life can never be quite the same again. Whether the death was expected or unexpected, welcome or unwelcome, now they are gone. And you cannot escape the physical, emotional and practical demands of your new situation. Many people are shocked by how overwhelming the experience of the death of a parent can be.

The 'end of the world' feeling that surrounds the death of a parent

The experience we all share, of course, is that up until now our parent or parents have 'always been there' - a fundamental fact of our lives. Even though we intellectually know that everyone will die one day, this knowledge is not enough to shake the inner conviction of permanence we have built from our experience. So when a parent dies, it can feel as if the very foundation of your world has crumbled.

So fundamental is the place of our parents in our understanding of our lives that even people who have not seen their parents for many years, or who have only a distant relationship with them (or none at all), can feel as if their world has fallen apart. This can seem quite inexplicable to them, and they may be shocked and frightened by it.

Coping with the death of a parent can be a demanding process

Whatever the nature of your relationship with your parent while they were alive, coping with their death and your feelings, dealing with the process of grieving, adjusting to life without them practically and emotionally can all make enormous demands on you. You need to gather all your resources to help yourself come through this time.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve for your parent

Remember that, even if the death of your parent was expected, you will still be in a state of shock. You may feel dissociated from what is happening around you, or as if you are operating on automatic pilot. You may be overwhelmed by emotions, or feel quite blank. All such reactions are normal - there is no 'right' way to feel in such circumstances. So whatever you feel, you can just accept that that is how you feel.

Grief is not something that 'happens' to you

The process of grieving uses a great deal of energy - much more than people would credit who have not experienced it. It can be very exhausting - as can coping with the grief of others around you who may also have been affected by this death. But even though it feels as if grief is a tidal wave sweeping you helplessly away and there is nothing you can do about it, there actually is a way to ride this wave.

You see, grieving is something that you do. That is, it is a behavior, and like all behaviors, it can be done more or less skillfully. In grieving, you gradually let go of the life that included the living presence of that parent, and adjust to and appropriate the life where their presence has become a memory. And there are a number of ways you can ease yourself through this necessary and inescapable task.

Hypnosis can help you grieve well for the death of your parent

Death of a parent is an audio hypnosis session which can help you with the psychological task of accepting the passing of your parent and preparing for the life you must now live. In this session, you will learn how to gain some control over the emotions associated with grief without having to suppress or deny them. You will be able to enjoy times of deep rest which will help you 'recharge' before you go on again.

Listening to Death of a parent will help you to build a new perspective on what your relationship with your parent can mean to you in the future. You will find that it is possible, however sad and bereaved you now feel, to begin to look forward again to being able to enjoy the good things that life has to offer you, while fully honoring the memory of your parent in ways that are appropriate and satisfying to you.

Download Death of a parent and give yourself the chance to grieve well.