Don't hold grudges - they're really bad for you

If you really want to be happier, don't hold grudges!

Do you find it hard to let go of past slights and grievances?

Do you go over and over things that went wrong, thinking how it could have been otherwise, or wishing you could get revenge?

It's a very human thing to take slights, wrongs and hurts to heart. We are amazingly sensitive to injustice and harshness in general, but when you find that you yourself are the target of the malice, incompetence, jealousy or manipulation of others it can feel soul destroying. Even if you are just an unintended victim - what they call 'collateral damage' - the unfairness of it can eat you up.

Grudges are born out of staying sore. And they're bad for you.

If the initial situation cannot be rectified somehow, you are left with a painful memory which you have to find some way to live with. It's these 'sore' memories which are the birthplace of our grudges. A grudge is not the immediate anger we feel at a hurt or a wrong. It is a long term bitterness and resentment born out of mulling over the grievance and finding no relief. And it sucks.

When you hold a grudge, you have to put energy into it. You have to keep on returning to the memory and feeding your resentment with further ruminations and 'if only's'. Although your feelings may be perfectly justified, this process never gets anywhere. It drains your energy and your motivation and your ability to enjoy life. But it's hard to let go of it because letting go feels like saying what happened was okay.

And it wasn't okay.

What you can do to let go of grudges

So what can you do? Is it possible to stop holding on to unrelieved resentment and still fully acknowledge the injustices that have befallen you? Can you learn to respond in a different way when hurts and slights come your way?

Unless you are already some kind of Zen master, you are going to find it hard to react to such experiences with calm detachment, not letting yourself be swayed by anger and thoughts of revenge. So when you think about how not to hold grudges, it's unrealistic to tell yourself "I just won't react when bad things happen." It's more effective to acknowledge and accept that your first responses will likely be angry and emotional.

But when you find yourself in one of those 'unfixable' situations which is going to persist, you have more leeway to help yourself come to terms with it and get to move on with your life. If you can get out of the pattern of ruminating about the wrongs that have been done to you, you can free yourself to focus on what's really important to you. And the key to escaping from such patterns lies in your unconscious mind.

Hypnosis can help you move on from past wrongs

Don't hold grudges is an audio hypnosis session which uses powerful hypnotic techniques carefully crafted by professionals. It will help you harness your own unconscious powers to create positive and constructive emotional patterns in your brain and let go of the past in appropriate ways.

This deeply relaxing and energizing hypnosis session will enable you to

• clearly acknowledge everything that has happened
• see what happened in a different light
• calm down your emotional responses to the situation
• focus on what really matters
• turn to the future with energy and enthusiasm

Download Don't hold grudges and free up your life.