Archive for September, 2009
What does it mean to say sorry?Remember as a kid being forced to say sorry when you didn’t really mean it? If you find it really hard to say sorry or apologize for anything, this reluctance could well stem from those uncomfortable childhood experiences. We somehow get (and keep right into adulthood) the idea that showing any sign of contrition means loss of face, dignity or status. In our litigious times ‘admitting liability’ is seen as an admission of ‘guilt’. Yet in our personal lives being able to say sorry – genuinely and unconditionally – actually means a greater likelihood of fulfilment for us as well as those around us. Research shows that people who can apologize are much more likely to be married and stay happily married. (2) Being able to admit mistakes makes you a bigger person. The new Saying Sorry download encourages development of social and emotional intelligence. Ego, pride, and arrogance all need to disappear in the moment of a heartfelt apology. No one should be apologizing all the time, of course, but never being able to say you’re sorry is a huge relationship handicap. Having fun is seriously important Ever noticed how some people just don’t seem able to relax, lighten up or see the funny side? We all grow older (if we’re lucky) but do we have to grow stale? Do we have to lose creativity and spontaneity and run our lives along dull predictable lines? Have More Fun is focused on how to enjoy the moment for its own sake. Sometimes the ‘bottom line’ is that there is no ‘bottom line’. Enjoying life for its own sake sometimes is not only great, but also vital to staying happy and healthy. Do you know that Bob Dylan song? The one that goes “May you always be courageous, stand upright and be strong may you stay forever young…” A tree gets more inflexible as it ages, but we don’t have to – and playfulness, sheer unbridled fun, produces ‘feel good chemicals’ which keep you feeling and looking younger. Life can get very serious at times but having fun does not necessarily trivialise the profundity of life – in fact, it can enhance that profundity. And having fun, while not expecting everything to be fun (that’s just silly!), can enhance our lives with the zest and energy it brings, making us more productive in our endeavors. But these are happy side effects; the main purpose of having fun is to… have fun! Being totally focussed in the moment lets us experience life with freshness again. Improving your archery could have unexpected other benefits And talking of being ‘in the moment’, Improve your archery download comprises a deep hypnotic experience to encourage an ‘in the zone’-like state of singular focus when practicing archery. The idea is that only the target exists and all awareness of past or future, success or failure completely vanishes as you aim and fire. This session should be great for archers who want to improve their game, but you don’t have to be an archer to benefit – anyone who’d like to engender greater levels of focus in their lives generally can use this download to help them. After all, improvement in one area so often ripples out to other areas.
Mark’s Tip for the TopThe end of the summer? September? Oh, come on! Still full of Vitamin D (not all gleaned from sunny England, it must be said), it has to be Have more fun. I love the thought of injecting more sparkle and energy into everyday living, so this is the one I’ll be listening to the most from the latest batch. Join me!
Clean your teeth Cleaning your teeth and generally looking after your oral health may be a lot more important than you realize. Nearly everyone knows that they should brush their teeth, but not everyone has a stable, reliable habit of brushing them morning and night. Constant partying, working late, falling asleep in front of the TV – these and many other ‘good reasons’ can all impact upon the time and care we take over our oral health routine. And sometimes teeth brushing gets missed altogether. (Ugh!) But not only does regular brushing keep your smile bright, removing everyday stains and plaque, and keep your teeth and gums healthy, it may also lengthen your life. A 2005 study published in the medical journal Circulation found a direct correlation between your likelihood of having a heart attack or stroke and whether you regularly brush your teeth. Does this just mean that people who don’t clean their teeth regularly, don’t generally take as good care of their health? Apparently not. The study took into account many other factors, such as age, ethnicity, weight, social background and cholesterol levels, and - even after allowing for all of these - still found clear evidence that the health of your gums and teeth can directly impact the health of your heart. This is most likely because the same bacteria that cause gum disease can spread through the body and cause the arteries to become blocked. This latest hypnosisdownloads.com session Clean your teeth hypnotically encourages a natural motivation to prioritise the heath of your gums and teeth for possibly a longer and healthier life over all. All the best Mark
Saying sorry Being able to say sorry is a vital human relationship skill. I recall, as you may too, being forced to say sorry as a child when I didn’t really feel I had anything to apologize for. But some adults still feel this reluctance even when they know they are in the wrong. Or they feel that saying sorry is an admission of weakness of some kind. But of course being able to say you’re sorry on occasion actually shows strength of character, the ability to rise above a situation and see it objectively, and to consider the bigger picture. And talking of the bigger picture, being able to say you’re sorry can save your marriage, friendships and work life integrity – and maybe even earn you more money. Say sorry and earn more money? Saying sorry is important when it’s the right thing to do for its own sake. But it also seems to confer ‘side benefits’. A study of over seven and a half thousand American adults, carried out by Zogby International pollsters, found some astonishing connections between the willingness to say sorry and success in life. People who earn over a hundred thousand dollars a year are almost twice as likely to apologize after an argument with their partner as those earning under twenty-five thousand dollars. Of course, it could be that people who can say sorry have the emotional intelligence (which has been shown to be more important than IQ for career success) to be more successful and so earn more money. Long term singles more likely to find saying sorry difficult And single or divorced people were half as likely to apologize in an argument as married people. So learning to say sorry more could significantly improve your relationships and your career! People who were able to say sorry (even when they only felt partially to blame) were twice as likely to be married. Of course, we all need to stick up for ourselves sometimes, but have you ever noticed how some people never seem to be able to admit to making mistakes? After a time these people become impossible to deal with. The hypnotic download especially for hypnosisdownloads.com Saying sorry encourages the humanity to sometimes comfortably say sorry. All the best Mark