Archive for July, 2009
Dancing in your bedMartha looked sadly at me, lines of pain etched on her aged face. “I’d really love to see Swan Lake again,” she said wistfully. What an impossible dream. She’d been telling me about her life long love for the ballet while we worked to relieve the pain that made her long term illness even harder to bear. There was no way she’d ever be well enough again to go to a ballet performance. Chronic illness has many psychological aspects, from feelings of fear to a sense of helplessness and loss. Hypnosis is all about dissociation. When you dream at night, you travel from your bed (in the sense that you lose all conscious awareness of it) and you disassociate from your usual self. In the hypnotist’s chair you may ‘forget’ the chair and the room as your mind travels free. Likewise we can help someone dissociate from their pain and suffering. So, using hypnosis, I helped Martha ‘see’ the whole Swan Lake ballet without actually leaving her bed. While caught up in this magical experience, she became wonderfully relaxed and comfortable. This new session uses hypnosis in a similar way to make chronic illness feel more manageable and enable sufferers to hypnotically experience pleasure and relaxation in spite of their illness.
Shrinking and stretching timeA performance of Swan Lake in the theatre takes several hours, yet Martha was able to enjoy the entire ballet in less than half an hour of clock time. Time distortion is something we all experience everyday. Time ‘drags’ if we are uncomfortable or bored and ‘flies’ when we are having fun. We can use this natural variation in time perception when helping people with intermittent pain (such as the contractions of child birth) by making the painful times seem short and the pain free times seem longer. Similarly, we can focus on stretching time out during a short holiday, so that we can relish every moment more fully. If I work with frightened flyers, I might suggest that ‘time will fly’ and an eight hour flight can feel like just a few hours. Or I might slow down the sense of time for a tennis player who wants to feel they have ‘all the time in the world to return that thunderous serve’.
Married to a depressed husbandBut talking of time dragging, living with a depressed person can be, well… depressing! What sympathy and attention is available is commonly focused on the person who is actually depressed, while those living with them must cope as best they can. In the new session Coping with a depressed husband we look at some differences in how men and woman typically communicate when they are depressed, and at how a wife or partner can cope with her partner’s low mood without becoming depressed herself. This is important because swallowing the limited depressive perspective of another person can drag us in to pessimism and general negativity. This session helps people stay empathetic while still retaining enough objectivity and detachment to look after themselves too.
Mark’s Tip for the TopMmmm… July’s personal favorite… let’s see… Well, because I’d really like summer to feel longer, I think this month’s favorite for me has got to be time distortion. I’ve used this wonderful hypnotic approach with athletes, phobics, people in chronic pain and even a racing car driver. It works so well because, like all hypnotic phenomena, it’s essentially a highly focused extension of what we all naturally experience. It’s great to be in control!
Perfect body Having the perfect body is a dream for many people, but of course what I think is ‘perfect’ may be rather different from your idea of ‘perfect’. Nonetheless, I’m sure we can agree that body image is very important to us. Body dissatisfaction has perhaps never been greater than in our present time. We’re bombarded with images of toned, tall, muscled and (sometimes airbrushed) beautiful bodies. No wonder we feel bad about that sagging waistline we see in the mirror, or are hyperconscious of our weedy arms and general lack of tone and firmness. We can’t help but sense that hours of sitting down all day, lack of exercise and poor diet with too much sugar all detract from what that body could – and should! – be. Because most people in our society don’t work on farms or have to walk ten miles to work every day, it takes real discipline to get the kind of body you can be proud of. Of course, we all have different genetic traits. Some people just naturally tend to be more muscular and lean than others, but we all have our own, unique, individual, physical genetic potential. Your perfect body is different from my perfect body. The perfect body for you is, in a sense, your ‘natural body’. The body you should have when you are feeding and using it right – as nature intended. The updated and improved Your perfect body hypnosisdownloads.com session helps people feel naturally compelled to realize the potential of their bodies as well as learning to appreciate and value them. Mark
Hypnotic time distortion Hypnotic time distortion is a pretty powerful tool. We can speed up the sense of time for experiences like being at the dentist or taking a long flight (where time can literally seem to fly!). We can help slow down the perception of time so that enjoyable moments can be savored, or so that someone competing in sports can feel as if they have ‘all the time in the world’ to respond to, say, a super fast tennis serve. I’ve used hypnotic time distortion to help get a mom in labor to experience her contractions as being much shorter in duration, while the gaps between seemed longer. Actually, like all hypnotic phenomena, time distortion is simply an extension of what we all quite naturally experience sometimes. Albert Einstein famously replied, when asked to explain his theory of relativity: “When a man sits with a pretty girl for an hour, it seems like a minute. But let him sit on a hot stove for a minute - then it's longer than any hour. That's relativity!” And we’ve all experienced this (not necessarily with a pretty girl or a hot stove!) Time drags when we feel bored or uncomfortable and time flies when we’re fully engaged or having great fun. The latest offering from hypnosisdownloads.com is - quite rightly - called hypnotic time distortion. It can be used to modify your own experience of time passing and to help others experience this too and encourages you to start using this natural capacity in a more controlled way in your own life. All the best Mark