Archive for June, 2009
Charity begins at home – so look after yourself!Henry sighed and said he was ‘utterly exhausted’ and had ‘no energy’. He went on to tell me that he slept an average of 5 hours a night, smoked 40 cigarettes a day, consumed up to 10 strong cups of coffee at work, got no exercise, skipped meals, compensated for that with sugary snacks, never drank water but consumed alcohol like prohibition had just lifted. He was overweight, had bags under his eyes and wheezed heavily. After listening to his story of woe, I looked Henry square in the eye and said: “I disagree. You have amazing energy... for a man who treats his own body so abysmally! If I smoked, drank, slept, eat and avoided physical activity like you do, I don’t think I’d have had the strength to crawl in here today!” This got his attention. Curiously, he had put his exhaustion down entirely to his workload. I suggested that the body is, in essence, the ‘vehicle of life’ - but if it breaks down you can’t really get a new one. Henry is not alone, of course. Millions of us take more care of our cars, our gardens and even our pets than we do of our own bodies. The Take care of yourself download uses a potent combination of hypnosis, metaphor and common sense to encourage a true respect for the body, inspiring a compulsion to care for it and give it what it needs. After all, if you were given a rare and precious flower to protect, you’d need to water and tend it, ensure that it got sufficient sunlight and nutrients, and so on. How much more precious is your own body?
Drop the bad habits and get some good onesHenry certainly needed this new mindset. He also needed to Break bad habits - another new download. The mind and body easily start to run along rather mechanical lines through habit. Anything we do a lot starts to ‘feel natural’ pretty soon. So it can come to feel ‘natural’ to • get too little sleep • ingest poison through smoking • never relax • eat junk Think of the weirdest behaviour you can possibly imagine... (I won’t even tell you what I just imagined!). Now the fact is, if you did that behaviour every day, no matter how bizarre it is, pretty soon it would feel normal and natural to you.
Pump up the positivityBreaking bad habits means replacing them with better ones. Of course, having a positive attitude is vital to becoming fitter and healthier, as well as helping in overcoming the many kinds of obstacles that life can present. Our new Positive attitude session explores the psychology of positivity. Positive people have a sense of setbacks as (temporary) valuable feedback rather than indicators of inherent weakness and failure. They tend to see the bigger picture and take pride in their resilience when those around them weaken. The new session is a training tool to instil positivity in those who feel more pessimistic than they would really like. I last saw Henry unexpectedly in the street about three years ago. He was looking trim, upbeat, clear skinned and about a decade younger than I remembered him. He winked at me and said: “The old vehicle is still running very nicely!”
Mark’s Tip for the TopWell, my personal favourite for June is… Cure affluenza. This session drew its inspiration from Oliver James’ fascinating book Affluenza (Vermilion, 2007). Of course it’s important to have the ‘basics’ - and even some luxuries - but there soon comes a cut-off point where getting more adds nothing to happiness but a lot to debt, anxiety and waste. I think we can all learn to do with less for the good of ourselves and the planet. Me included.
Break bad habits The philosopher Aristotle once said “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” And it’s true. A bad habit, whether it be smoking, eating too much of the wrong food, interrupting others when they are speaking or simply ‘leaking your life away’ watching TV watching or computer gaming, can pretty soon start to dictate the direction your life takes. The fewer bad habits we indulge in the better life runs – and the more of what we really want comes our way. Of course, bad habits can be as much about what you don’t do as what you do do. Procrastination can stop us going to the gym, working on that all important project, or getting in touch with our friends. What’s more, a bad habit might seem like a small thing but like the ripples from a pebble cast in a pond, the effects can spread rather wide. Developing more positive and life-enhancing habits can make all the difference between living your life fully, and squandering away your time on unhealthy and unproductive activities. The new hypnosisdownloads.com session Break bad habits encourages a ‘cleaning of the disc files’ for the mind. Some people are pessimistic about whether they can change: “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks!” but I have seen hundreds of people shift unwanted bad habits and take those all important steps closer to personal fulfilment. All the best Mark
Cure affluenza Things alone don’t make us happy. Connections with others, good experiences, and fulfilling work bring true fulfilment. Of course, financial security makes us feel safe in life and we can appreciate material items to an extent. But too much focus on buying the latest greatest thing can end up seriously detracting from your quality of life. All of us at some point have probably become a bit too focused on buying the latest this or that and been pleased if we managed to get it. There is nothing wrong with this. But we are surrounded by messages from others and advertising that we exist only in terms of what we have. “I buy, therefore I am.” ‘Affluenza’ is the feeling of never having enough, of feeling dissatisfied because you don't have as much as this person or that person, of feeling trapped in a relentless pattern of hoping the next thing you buy will make you happy. Which it does for a short while - but never as much as that ‘must have item’ seems to promise. Affluence and happiness Research into happiness has found that once you have enough then having more doesn’t make you happier. (1) The new session for Hypnosisdownloads.com called Cure Affluenza is designed to soothe away too much desire for ‘stuff’. Far better ways of finding happiness are things like having a sense of purpose and making sure you are creatively stimulated, having healthy friendships and relationships, and how optimistic your thinking style is. This session seeks to help put greed for material things back into it’s proper perspective. Over-materialism is a trap that stops us truly living. Mark Note (1) Professor Robert Lane of Yale University in America has found that all the statistical data on happiness and income levels points to the same conclusion: that once people are above the poverty-line and can meet their basic needs for food and shelter, then income level stops having any correlation with a person's happiness. A multi-millionaire or a lottery winner is just as likely to be happy or unhappy as a person in a low income job who only has enough for the bare essentials.