Overcome Social Anxiety, Social Phobia and Shyness
Since human beings are such social creatures, is there anything worse than serious social anxiety, or social phobia?
For those who are socially anxious, life's most fun activity is turned into its most miserable. So many possibilities, opportunities and experiences are lost due to an overriding fear of being with other people. And what's more, although the social urge is just as strong, the fear makes enjoying socializing impossible.
The Catch-22 of social anxiety
Social anxiety is a true Catch-22 - you feel lonely, but the thought of being with other people is frightening. You want to be with others, but it feels safer to be alone. It can feel like there is no way out.
So what causes social anxiety?
The funny thing is, despite our super-social natures, being with other people causes more human anxiety than almost anything else you can think of. For some people, even the thought of dying is less terrifying! How can this be?
Why we have such a powerful need to be social
The long course of human history has favored sociable behavior. A human on their own can’t do much. But when they get together with others, it seems like there is almost nothing they cannot do. And so our genes positively drive us together.
Humans are particularly brilliant at making the most of complementary skills and talents. We don’t all have to be super intelligent, or super creative, or super strong, or super good at making things, or whatever. We can pool our knowledge and talents and come up with phenomenal schemes for making the most of the resources all around us, where many different people contribute in all sorts of different ways.
Because being sociable is so important, we have developed extreme sensitivity to social context. Our relations with other people feel supremely important. How we get on with other people, how they get on with us, really matters.
So it’s not at all unusual – in fact it is extremely common – to experience a strong desire to be sociable coupled with a strong anxiety about being sociable, ranging from shyness or awkwardness to outright social phobia. And the anxiety is not just because socializing is so important. It can also be dangerous.
One cause of social anxiety is that socializing can be dangerous
This description of our social evolution sounds lovely, but it’s hardly the whole truth. History shows clearly that humans don’t always use their social talents for positive purposes. Humans also get together to be nasty and horrible to each other.
And that makes being careful about who you socialize a very sensible idea indeed. And in fact, aren’t other people best avoided altogether, if they’re such a threat? It’s a real dilemma!
The dangers of avoiding social situations
If you just steer clear of other people, you might indeed avoid some of the dangers of hostility, but:
- your basic sociable nature will be starved
- you’ll experience a great deal of loneliness
- you are likely to be less financially successful (because it’s ‘who you know, not what you know’)
- your health will suffer and you’ll be likely to die earlier
- you’ll miss out on the huge satisfactions to be gained from engaging with others
- it will be harder to find people to be intimate with
- and you could get very very bored!
A note on normal anxiety
Is it just me?
You may think you’re the only person who feels terribly worried and nervous about being with other people in social situations. Everybody else looks so relaxed! They all seem to find it so easy to talk to each other! They don’t stutter or get tongue-tied. They don’t blush. They make jokes and contribute to the conversation without making fools of themselves. Goodness, they even start conversations!
Don’t be fooled. Remember: “Never compare your inside with other people’s outside.”
In any group you find yourself in, about half the people there will be experiencing some level of awkwardness and anxiety, and it’s quite likely that one or two of them will be feeling even worse than you. But they’ve learned to hide it. You may have learned to hide it too, perhaps better than you realize, so that no one suspects how much you are shrinking inside.
Pretending you're not anxious can be both a good thing and a bad thing
It allows you to be sociable and enjoy some of its benefits despite feeling anxious. It can also, if you know how to exploit this, allow you to ‘practice’ being sociable safely until it really does become more comfortable for you (you’ll read more about this in the course).
But the risk of always putting on an act is that you may never get to experience the real thing – feeling naturally happy and relaxed with other people. A very good ‘act’ can, paradoxically, stand in the way of really getting to grips with and overcoming the anxiety. On top of that, it’s exhausting to keep up!
Here comes the good news
Of course, some people do naturally find socializing easier than others, but even the most socially skilled person in the world isn’t born knowing how to do it. Everybody has to learn how to socialize. It’s a complex business, involving an interplay of personality and preferences, early family and social experiences, the culture in which you live, the expectations of those around you, and what real opportunities come your way to learn new ways of doing things.
This is good news.
Because if socializing skills are something that you learn, and not some unchangeable ‘fact’ about you, then it really doesn’t matter whether your experience with social interaction up till now has been good or bad. It’s perfectly possible to learn new ways of engaging comfortably with others – and enjoying it. And that’s what the 10 Steps to Overcome Social Anxiety course is all about.
Being comfortable socially is entirely learnable
We believe that everyone – and that includes you – can learn and change. We’ve looked closely at what exactly goes on when people get together and identified the factors that can make you feel nervous when dealing with others. And we’ve developed a structured program that anyone troubled by social anxiety, social phobia or shyness can follow in order to overcome their fears and really begin to enjoy being with other people.
Each Step on this course covers one important facet of social anxiety in detail. You’ll find lots of useful information that will help you understand yourself and others better, as well as practical exercises to help you develop a wide range of flexible psychological and relationship skills.
But this course is not just about learning a lot of psychological theory (fascinating though it is). It’s about completely changing your life.
Learn quickly with hypnosis
So each Step includes a specially selected audio hypnosis session designed to help you more easily absorb and integrate powerful new behavior patterns and helpful mental attitudes. Until it feels completely natural to you to automatically feel, think and behave truly comfortably and easily with others. No more ‘acting’.
And this isn't the sort of course where you have to remember lots of facts. This is all about skills, which you practice in hypnosis so when it comes to the real thing, you already feel better. With hypnosis, you relax and absorb the material over time, making it as naturally and deeply yours as your mother tongue that you learned to speak so fluently without even realizing that this was what you were doing.
Making big changes in how you feel about and deal with other people requires a serious investment of your time and energy. To get the maximum benefit, you need to make a strong commitment to yourself:
- to read your material carefully
- to listen to your downloads regularly
- to do the exercises
- to practice your new behaviors
- to be patient with yourself and give yourself time
- to notice, monitor and celebrate your progress
What does the Course contain?
- 106-page course downloadable manual (pdf format)
- 10 hypnosis downloads, one for each step of the course (mp3 audio)
- Specific exercises to carry out
- Your unique Progress Checker
The 10 Steps
1) Overcoming Shyness - learn how to calm anxious thoughts and feelings before you meet new people and when you are in their company.
2) Overcoming Social Phobia - stop being ultra self conscious by training your brain to switch off its social anxiety response
3) Be Yourself Socially - lose the mask and express yourself more naturally in conversation.
4) Eye Contact - unconsciously know how to use the right amount of eye contact and other non verbal signals to show your interest in others.
5) Meeting People - get back into the habit of meeting people and enjoy healthy relationships with many people.
6) Conversation Starter - start conversations successfully by building rapport and creating a positive first impression.
7) Making Small Talk - small talk smooths the way for big talk and helps you through difficult social occasions
8) Express Your Opinion - break the silence and tactfully voice your opinion.
9) Speaking in Groups - step out of the shadows and into the conversation by making regular, valuable contributions to group discussions.
10) I'm OK, You're OK - a useful model of how people interact, to ensure you communicate on the right level.
How to see how you’re doing – the Progress Checker
We’ve put the material in this course together very carefully to make it as easy as possible for you to use, and to review as often as you need. Each Step provides you with vital information, tips, exercises and information about related material.
Each Step includes a Progress Checker sheet. The Progress Checker makes a number of statements on the topic covered in that Step, and asks you to indicate how true these statements are when applied to you, giving you a clear and simple way to monitor your progress.
Begin your journey to social confidence today
It's a terrible shame that some people life their whole lives without knowing that they can get rid of their social anxiety. Shyness and social phobia can go with people to their grave if they don't know what to do about them.
As you progress through the course and the weight of social anxiety begins to lift, you will start to see social opportunities in a whole new light. You'll begin to seek them out, treat them playfully and embrace what they bring. I know it sounds hard to believe, but we've seen it happen again and again. Start today, you'll be so glad you did.
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